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For when you’re so scared you could pee your pants.

Every night my daughter and I talk about one brave thing we did that day. My daughter is a pretty anxious kid so we’ve been talking for years about courage and how that’s more important than your fear. It is usually better to feel afraid and do the scary thing anyway. We talk about how just because we feel afraid, that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re in danger and shouldn’t do the scary thing.

A while back, I noticed that for several days in a row I couldn’t think of anything brave I had done that day. Because I wasn’t doing anything scary. I saw that not being brave corresponded with my life feeling flat. I wasn’t unhappy and my life wasn’t falling part. It was just flat. On the days I have a brave thing to report, those are the days that I have more fun.

These aren’t huge things. I never leap from one tall building to the other, for example.

However, I do go to Crossfit.

I started a couple of months ago. It’s crazy. Crossfitters climb ropes, do pull-up’s, and lift bars over their head with hundreds of pounds of weight on them.


In order to join my Crossfit gym, you have to take a one month how-to course so that you can learn all of the movements and lingo and so forth. I was the only woman in my class. The teacher was a 17 year-old (very nice, but super muscular) kid. Even though some of the men in my class were significantly overweight, I was always the last one done. Every. Single. Time.

One of the nice things about Crossfit is how supportive and encouraging everyone is.

So when we were completing a workout involving jumping on and off of boxes, and I was still going after everyone else was done, they crowded around me cheering me on.

While my post-baby body leaked. If you know what I mean.

And ladies, I think you probably do.

So I told myself they probably thought I had particularly sweaty thighs. And I kept jumping.

Crossfit terrifies me every time.

Jumping and peeing in front of all of those people terrified me.

I am so damn proud of myself every time I finish.

Because I keep going and I’m not afraid to suck in front of all of those people.

If I can pee my pants in front of several people and hold my head up, don’t you know I have the courage to stand up for what I believe in even if people around me disagree?

Or to send a scary email to someone letting them know how much I’d love to work with them.

Or to publish a weak vulnerable blog post.

Here’s why. Every time I show up, it’s practice for my life. Crossfit is not life or death for me. It’s scary for sure, but my heart isn’t on the line, like it is with coaching and writing. So it’s this safe place where I can stretch my brave and uncomfortable muscles. And the stronger they get, the stronger I am. Just like the faster I jump on and off of those boxes at the gym, the more stamina I develop. That stamina makes it easier for me to get through my kids bedtime when we’re all tired and cranky.

Now you. 

How alive do you feel?

How terrified do you let yourself get?

Do you see a correlation?

I want to know what you’ve done lately that scares the pee out of you. Talk to me in the comments below.


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11 Responses to For when you’re so scared you could pee your pants.

  1. Deana February 28, 2014 at 11:07 am #

    Oh my gosh. This is so brilliant Sarah! I needed this perspective today (but you knew that;)! xo- Deana

    • Sarah April 16, 2014 at 12:03 pm #

      This is why I love you.

  2. Ruth February 28, 2014 at 12:06 pm #

    Wow…my scariest thing I am doing today is writing my story about shyness for my website…and my story starts with me peeing my pants while standing in the front row of the camp glee club. So it’s SO not just a metaphor for me! Probably a lot of famous brave people changed the world with a little added tinkle that history never suspected! Who says you can’t be yellow and brave LOL!!

    Thanks for today’s wisdom!

    • Sarah April 16, 2014 at 12:03 pm #

      There’s your tagline: Yellow and brave!!!

      • Bobbe August 26, 2014 at 12:48 am #

        I’m so glad that the innrteet allows free info like this!

  3. judy March 28, 2014 at 6:45 am #

    Sarah you made me laugh so much and considering how i’m feeling right now, that’s a miracle. I just have to re-read that line throughout today: “And ladies, I think you probably do.” Hoot, thx for this post…

    • Sarah April 16, 2014 at 12:04 pm #


  4. rebecca@altaredspaces March 28, 2014 at 11:17 am #

    I’m president of a small non-profit board where I get to practice meeting with people in local government. I learn things that prepare me for my life where I care over-the-moon about things. I get the brave in one place to practice for the real thing.

    • Sarah April 16, 2014 at 12:04 pm #

      I love that. I love using safe places as gaining grounds.

  5. Jess March 28, 2014 at 4:25 pm #

    Sarah – I ABSOLUTELY love this post…and have been in the same post-baby situation:-) Couldn’t stop smiling when I read this. So much truth in it and laying one’s heart on the line. Thanks!

    • Sarah April 16, 2014 at 12:04 pm #

      Those damn babies!


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