You have a ton of them. As you should. Where to start?

When you act in alignment with your deep values, it’s easier to decide. You + your deep values = congruence. When you act in accordance with what you really want, you’re fine. There’s plenty of time to do everything you want to do. I swear. You’re not required to do anything that you can’t do in peace.

What kinds of things do you usually say that you want?

Think about some of the things in the past couple days that you have told yourself you want. For example: new clothes, time to watch TV, a couple more brownies, to get skinnier, your partner to do the dishes.

An exercise:
Go to your place of peace. Do this by thinking about someone or something that is easy for you to love. Notice how that immediately brings your heartrate down and softens everything inside.

From that state, while peaceful and soft, think about the top 3-5 things that you want in your life. Think about the end of your life and looking back. What are the main things you want to have accomplished? Not specific bucket list items like “visit every continent” or “run a marathon.” Consider how you want to be in the world. Consider what you want to be representative of your life.

I’ll go first: I want to have great relationships with husband and kids, to continually grow spiritually by letting go of what doesn’t work and helping others, to have a vibrant, strong and healthy body, to do meaningful work with my whole heart. How about you?

How much time have you spent on any of these things in the past few days?

You want to be healthy. What are you doing about it?

You want to create a business? What are you doing about it?

You want to write that book. What are you doing about it?

Why?

Align your activities with your real desires.

For example, say you really want to lose weight. Why? What do you think it will give you? If what’s really important to you is feeling strong and present and awake in your body, but what you tell yourself is that you want to lose 10 pounds, there will be some incongruence there. On the other hand, if what you want is to feel strong, present, awake and focusing on losing 10 pounds at a time is a way for you to do that, that’s something else entirely.

Idea overwhelm. Here’s the cure: start with your deep values, your deep desires. Match your ideas to those.

I am so passionate about ideas. About business creation. About sailing through despite having a case of Shiny Object Syndrome. I want you to know what I know: you can do this. Your overarching, sometimes exhausting enthusiasm is the best thing for you. You just need to use it in a particular way so that it doesn’t kill your results.

Please join me for my free class: How to Pick the Best Idea.

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