How to live well even when you don’t live well: a potion of love + chaos

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Take your ‘impossibles’ and cradle them, gently. Then kiss ‘em tenderly — and throw them off a moving train.– Alexandra Franzen

Possible + Muddy Faith = Potion for Bright Living

One of my teachers, Brooke Castillo made some astounding statements about her life.

  • She’s not busy.
  • She doesn’t struggle with kids + business + time

I believe her. I don’t always believe people who say things like that. But I believe her. She’s a powerhouse of awesome.

Inspire, not conspire

Let her example inspire. She’s a picture of possible. Proof of your own power. A potion for your future. If she can do it, you can do it.

That’s not my life. Is it yours?

  • Sometimes I get busy and don’t know how the hell I’m going to get it all done.
  • I struggle with kids + business + focus stuff.

And yet

  • I get plenty done
  • Am happy
  • Live with big Love
  • Live on my own terms
  • and I keep moving forward.

I want you to know that even if you

  • don’t have it together
  • don’t take great enough care of yourself
  • spend too much time on social media + the interwebs
  • aren’t sure what the hell you’re doing half/three-quarters/most of the time

It’s all good.

Seriously. It’s fine. You can live well even if you don’t always live well.

5 Most Important Things to do When You Don’t Know What You’re doing

  • Keep on keeping on. Unless you don’t want to. Then you can go to bed. But when you’re ready to get up, please do. Your people need you.
  • Come back, come back, come back. Right here, in this exact moment, everything is whole + perfect. All fear is in the future, so every moment you spend right here is a moment without fear.
  • Fuck up. It’s no big deal, just life + death. The arc of time is way more huge than you. Relax. If you don’t want to use your gifts, you don’t have to. They’re your gifts.
  • Tell terrible jokes. Repeat them until someone (you) laughs. Butt humor always works. Sparkle it up by adding unicorn butt, fairy butt, smelly butty butt.
  • Cuddle. Find something to love. It feels so good to love up on people. It feels better to love than be loved.

Photo via cuatrok77

 

 

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